🙏 Forgiveness Check-In Chart
This chart is a heart guide to examine whether I am practicing forgiveness the way God intends.
Forgiveness is NOT OPTIONAL in the believer’s life…..
it’s a command that frees us, reflects Christ, and protects us from the enemy’s schemes. Use this regularly as a spiritual check-up.
“The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant
21 Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?”
22 Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven. 23 Therefore the kingdom of heaven is like a certain king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. 24 And when he had begun to settle accounts, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents. 25 But as he was not able to pay, his master commanded that he be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and that payment be made. 26 The servant therefore fell down before him, saying, ‘Master, have patience with me, and I will pay you all.’ 27 Then the master of that servant was moved with compassion, released him, and forgave him the debt.
28 “But that servant went out and found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii; and he laid hands on him and took him by the throat, saying, ‘Pay me what you owe!’ 29 So his fellow servant fell down at his feet and begged him, saying, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you all.’ 30 And he would not, but went and threw him into prison till he should pay the debt. 31 So when his fellow servants saw what had been done, they were very grieved, and came and told their master all that had been done. 32 Then his master, after he had called him, said to him, ‘You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you begged me. 33 Should you not also have had compassion on your fellow servant, just as I had pity on you?’ 34 And his master was angry, and delivered him to the torturers until he should pay all that was due to him.
35 “So My heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses.”
1. Obedience to God’s Command
Check: Have I chosen to forgive because God commands it?
Verse: “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.” (Matthew 6:14 NKJV)
✅ Yes – I released it in obedience, not just feelings
❌ No – I’m holding onto the hurt
2. Release from Bitterness
Check: Am I letting go of resentment and not keeping a record of wrongs?
Verse: “Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.”(Ephesians 4:31 NKJV)
✅ Yes – My heart is free from grudges
❌ No – I keep replaying/rehearsing/telling others what they did
3. Imitating Christ
Check: Am I forgiving the way Christ forgave me?
Verse: “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.”(Ephesians 4:32 NKJV)
✅ Yes – I’m extending grace as He did to me
❌ No – I’ll forgive when I feel better about it
4. Guarding Against the Enemy
Check: Am I aware that unforgiveness gives Satan a foothold?
Verse: “…lest Satan should take advantage of us; for we are not ignorant of his devices.” (2 Corinthians 2:11 NKJV)
✅ Yes – I shut the door through forgiveness
❌ No – My hurt is still open ground for the enemy
5. Freedom in Prayer
Check: Have I forgiven so my prayers are not hindered?
Verse: “And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him…” (Mark 11:25 NKJV)
✅ Yes – My prayers flow unhindered
❌ No – My prayers feel blocked or strained
6. Love in Action
Check: Does my forgiveness lead me to walk in love, even if boundaries remain?
Verse: “Above all, put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.” (Colossians 3:14 NLT)
✅ Yes – I can bless them even if I don’t reconcile
❌ No – My “forgiveness” feels cold or fake
✅ Takeaway
True forgiveness = Obedience + Release + Christlikeness + Victory + Prayer Freedom + Love
🕊️ Action Step
If any box is ❌, bring it to God:
Repent of unforgiveness and put it under the blood
Ask God to soften your heart
Release the offense at the cross
Declare the truth of His Word over your emotions
